Lately, I've noticed an internal shift—a widening of the lens through which I see myself and others. For the past year or so, I've felt called to embrace non-judgment, a journey that at first felt unintentional, almost organic, but has steadily grown into one of the most liberating experiences of my life. I've discovered that when I release the impulse to judge or categorize, I open up to a new way of connecting—with myself and with others.
In reading The Ra Contact: Teaching the Law of One, I came across an idea that felt like a mirror to what I’ve been experiencing. The book speaks of "mental discipline" and a process of learning to see the completeness in ourselves and others. This process involves letting go of selective judgment and opening to the whole spectrum of qualities—good, bad, and everything in between. It felt like a message right to my heart.
There’s a beautiful line in the text that says, “The mind contains all things. Therefore, you must discover this completeness within yourself.” This resonated deeply, as I feel like I’ve spent the last year finding room within me for the entire landscape of my own thoughts and emotions. This shift began with simple self-reflection, noticing qualities like patience and impatience, compassion and frustration, and accepting that these qualities coexist as part of my whole self. Instead of choosing which traits to favor and which to reject, I’ve found a peace in seeing them all as necessary parts of my growth.
Through this self-acceptance, I've realized that true non-judgment begins within. As I’ve opened up to the fullness of my own being, I've grown in my ability to see others this way. Where once I might have noticed someone’s flaws or "negative" traits and unconsciously put up an internal wall, I now feel a greater capacity to honor them in their entirety. This doesn’t mean overlooking faults or pretending struggles don’t exist; rather, it’s about embracing a wider view, seeing the completeness of their being and finding that love exists for them as they are. When we stop choosing which parts of someone are "acceptable," we allow ourselves to connect on a deeper, more authentic level.
The teachings from The Ra Contact explore this shift beautifully. They suggest that as we become more aware of our polarities—our light and shadow aspects—and bring them into balance, we begin to understand the wholeness within. In practice, this means recognizing that qualities we admire and those we resist are equally present and valuable. It means seeing patience, for example, not as an isolated virtue, but as something that only truly exists when we acknowledge its counterpart, impatience. As Ra says, “Each acceptance smooths part of the many distortions that the faculty you call judgment engenders.” Each time we honor a polarity, we dissolve another layer of judgment, opening up to clearer, more compassionate understanding.
The Ra text also speaks to a practice of turning this acceptance outward. Just as we learn to see the fullness within ourselves, we are invited to extend that same lens to others. In every interaction, I find this idea resonates: that in each person I meet, there exists a complete, balanced being, embodying both light and shadow, joy and pain, wisdom and folly. When I look at someone in this way, I find myself more open to connection, more willing to love without reservation. I no longer feel the need to label their qualities as good or bad, or to decide which are “worthy” of connection. Instead, I am able to honor them in their entirety.
This journey into non-judgment and acceptance has allowed me to experience life with an openness I never knew was possible. It has strengthened my relationships and expanded my own sense of self-love. With each day, I feel my heart widening, softening, making room for the complexity that each of us carries. In letting go of judgment, I am finding peace in simply allowing things to be as they are—myself included.
I invite you, if this resonates, to explore your own polarities. Notice where you’re quick to judge, both in yourself and others, and see if there’s space to soften, to welcome the parts you might usually turn away from. You may find, as I have, that the journey toward wholeness isn’t about perfecting yourself or others, but about fully embracing the beautiful, messy completeness that is already here.
With love,
Kristin Kenyon
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